In today’s episode of ‘Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,’ Lisa dives into the challenges of surrendering to the dating process and being open to growth and learning. She talks about the importance of self-improvement and personal accountability in dating and learning to embody the qualities you seek in a partner.
Lisa explains that both men and women find the dating process challenging and that men today may feel hesitant to approach women because of a fear of being rejected or because of the Me Too Movement. She offers a personal and detailed account of her experiences dealing with narcissistic individuals and provides professional insights drawing from her own struggles.
Lisa shares how a willingness to face the worst parts of herself led her to a fulfilling and enduring 21-year marriage. To illustrate how facing adversity can lead to our biggest breakthroughs, she shares about being humiliated by and standing up to her mentor while getting her Master’s degree.
Quotes:
“I am so disheartened when I read all of the reports out there about how many people are giving up on finding love and resigning themselves to staying single.”
— Lisa Shield
“If we see life as a school and all of the experiences we’re having as life lessons, we are able to move forward in a better way towards our goals and dreams.”
— Lisa Shield
“They’ve actually done studies, and they’ve shown that when it comes to romantic signaling, women actually send the first message, not the man. So the woman signals to the man that it is safe for him to approach her.”
— Lisa Shield
“You’ve got to send men the signals. You’ve got to smile. You’ve got to run your fingers through your hair and flirt a bit, or men won’t approach you in public.”
— Lisa Shield
“Narcissists can tell which women will be harder from the ones that will be easier to manipulate.
— Lisa Shield
“You don’t want a man who offers you false flattery to win your favor, which is what narcissists often do.”
— Lisa Shield
“Surrendering to this process means acknowledging that you have blind spots and things you don’t know, you don’t know. And that you start to reach out to coaches and mentors and people like me who can actually help you see your patterns and show you how to break them.”
— Lisa Shield
